Power And Precedent
In our lives there will always be an exchange of power.  Power itself is given to whoever holds the dominant (alpha) position in the interaction. Beneath the smiles, small talk and friendly gestures there is always an underlying hierarchy of who’s in power and who have less of it. This fight for power all takes place in sub-communication and context. You do not speak of this power struggle.
Precedent is an established procedure that dictates how similar issues that arise in the future will be handled.
These two concepts alone are essential to understand, but lets look at how they apply to each other in the realm of pickup arts.
If during the pickup it is communicated in sub-context that you are the one in power you become able to establish and manipulate precedent. Read that again. If you are seen as the dominant figure in the equation you now have the power to establish and set a foundation for how your future interactions will take place.
Why is this important to us? This is important because if you set the proper precedent you can manipulate the interaction to have her behave in certain ways. This is better known as setting the frame.
You should always be conscious of the precedentyou’re setting between yourself and the target. Should you set a sexual precedent it will be easier to transition into a sexual state and escalate quicker, she’s going to expect it because you set the proper precedent. If you set the precedent of her being independent and smart, assuming you’re in power she will fit herself into that frame.Â
On the other hand, if your target has the power not only are you screwed but she can set whatever precedent she wishes. This is why most often guys get trapped into buying dinner and gifts. The precedent has been set by his date that he is the provider and fittingly he should pay. This obviously is not a good situation for a guy to be in because if this behaviour isn’t corrected soon (as in the first time it happens) it becomes increasingly difficult as time goes by to realign the interaction in your favour.
Both power and precedent feed off each other. By establishing precedent of how future situations will be handled you gain power. By having power you give yourself the ability to set the precedent. This cycle is either working for you or against you.
Be aware and align the interaction so that you’re gaining power and setting the precedent.
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This one makes me think a lot. Interesting.