Thoughts On Leaving “The Game”
Yesterday one of the members of the local lair had announced he was going to take a break (possibly permanently) from “The Game” and everything it entails.  This sparked a lot of thinking about the whole industry, how deep men absorb themselves in it and whether it’s even possible to leave it all behind.
About a year ago I was pressured to abandon the community by my girlfriend at the time.  The reasons that led to it are fairly inconsequencial but either way she gave me an ultimatum of the relationship or the industry. I chose her. A lot of men questioned my decision, warned me that it would be the beginning of the end and even went as far to tell me I’d be back.
As months passed by the trust issues between us had become too prominent for us to have any sort of a real relationship and thus we broke up. It was during this time that I ran my first workshop and co-founded Lifestyle Imaging with my wing. Not too long after that we decided to get back together but I made it clear that I was involved with this business. Not long after that we broke up again. My friends were right and I came back to the industry with more intent than ever.Â
Why would I tell you, my readers, this? My lesson to you men is that if a woman ever asks you to leave the industry or doesn’t trust you to be a part of it there are going to be worse issues down the line. Trust is key and if she can’t handle you going out and socializing (without the intent of picking up of course) than she isn’t going to be able to handle a lot of things you do in the future. Jealousy will kill your relationship.
Though, I often question whether a man can get involved in the pickup artist circles and ever truly leave everything behind after a period of time. Style said he left “The Game” for his girlfriend, but *surprise* he’s back. What does leaving “The Game” even entail? Does it mean we leave the brotherhood? Do we sever the communication channels between other pickup artists? Or is it a question of forgetting everything we’ve learned?
This isn’t something you’re ever going to forget. Everything we learn gets ingrained into our personality and belief system. We build ourselves to be better, stable, socially acceptable guys… why would you ever want to leave that behind?Â
I had a student who had made the choice to take a workshop not because he had a lack of women in his life, but because he was scared that his girlfriend was so beautiful that he’d lose her. To me driving yourself to be the best person for your partner is the ultimate expression of love. Was he wrong to take the workshop while commited to someone? I don’t believe so.
I’m getting off tangent though. Back to the local lair member.
He left a message saying he and his girlfriend had broken up and it was in part of him seeing all the potential “9’s” and “10’s” out there for him. I don’t think this is a valid blame to lay on pickup. Speaking for myself I would ALWAYS notice women of magnificent beauty even before I had gotten involved in the industry. And say what you will but any guy who tells you he is blind to other women while in a relationship is a fucking liar.
No matter what organization you are a part of or activities you put under your interests column you are going to notice other people even while in a relationship. It’s natural and there’s nothing wrong with it. Leaving the community is not going to fix anything. It’s not going to remove “sarging” or other retarded PUA terminology from your mind. Accept the fact that it’s there and it’ll make life a lot easier. This is a part of who you’ve become and it’s not a bad thing. If anything social consciousness is a wonderful thing to have trapped inside of your head.
Not only all of this but the social brotherhood that the industry offers is astounding and offers benefits beyond intrinsic value! Why would you want to leave behind the possibility of tons of international friends going through the same situations as you?
Anyways, I’m rambling and it’s late. To recap, “The Game” can leave you, but you can never leave “The Game” .
Orleans, never out.
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I don’t think the problem is noticing other 9s or 10s out there when you are in a relationship, its the fact that you cant be satisfied with the one girl you do have. My impression is that the community encourages guys to always trade up who they are seeing as a sort of challenge and not to settle into a relationship. Although no one should ever settle for something less than they deserve, there should be a point where you are happy with what you do have. As for leaving everything you learned and the people you’ve met behind, that I don’t understand.